Reflections & Resolutions

new years eve 2016

As I’ve probably mentioned before, my approach to resolutions is to make and forget them, at least consciously. The time apart makes for a nice surprise when I look back a year later and see how my goals have changed–which is essentially, how I myself have changed.

On the surface, 2015 was not an eventful year. My relationship ended and I took a while to bounce back (and forth between the dudes and duds who followed) before I felt back in my element. It’s funny that what took eight months to come to a peaceful close can now be wrapped up into a tidy sentence.

And it’s been peaceful in every sense–all those adults who used to tell me I’d mellow out in my late twenties were right. This year I learned about saturn return and took comfort in uncertainty. I decided that I’d rather not know what’s going to happen in my career than know exactly which awful desk and task my ass will be working on until retirement. There will be other desk jobs in the future–that’s for sure–but taking a break reinvigorated and set my priorities straight.

Without a 9-5, I resolved to use the time to tackle some of my health concerns–I got a handle on my sugar/coffee/soda consumption and my food anxieties. It’s a work in progress but with the first couple months over, new habits have taken root. This year I don’t have any of the typical resolutions in regards to diet, exercise or dating. I have a pretty good handle on these, which frees up more focus and energy to:

1. Be a good daughter. A switch literally flipped last month where I realized that I’m over being bratty and surly to my parents. I’m improving my attitude, keeping less secrets, and making an effort at quality time/conversations. It probably had to do with my mom seeing one of my tattoos and hey, she’s still alive.

2. Be a good friend. I’m good at putting friends first, and thus reap the benefits of having super inspirational, rollicking, and rock solid friendships. I want to keep this up and do more–champion my friends’ personal goals and start projects together so we can create something together.

3. Find a good company fit. Maybe it’s having more experience this time around, but I’m not anxious about finding a stable job. There’s one in particular that I hope works out in January.

4. Visit my family in China, and at least one other new place. I hate being a tourist, but it’s high time I left the glorious bubble that is Oakland.

5. Perform 5 minutes of standup comedy. It’s happening in 2016.

Maybe being in such a state of calm isn’t conducive to making resolutions, but I’m still excited. 2016 and my 28th birthday both around the corner!


2015 Resolutions

I’ve made and posted resolutions on whatever blog I’m using for the past five years and always end up fulfilling more than I expect, so not fixing what ain’t broke. If last year’s theme was “YOLO”, this year’s is probably something like “Who cares?” I’m proud to say that I’ve learned a great deal on how to work with rather than against my body, so this year’s resolutions are less health-related. Also, my social life is fine–if anything, I had too much fun in the last year–so rather than meeting new people, I’m focusing on personal and career growth.

Sleep 7-8 hours a night
Maintain a balance of dance classes, biking, running, yoga
Call my favorite family members once a month
Start accepting that I want a serious relationship and stop dating guys who clearly do not
Worry less and be more positive. Half the time I think this is the most important goal but other times I’m perfectly happy with my healthy dose of cynicism and unachievable expectations

Kick ass at my new copywriting job
Find a career mentor
Take on new responsibilities outside of my job description (learn the design process//project management/make more presentations/build client relationships)
Develop a kick ass portfolio
Write that screenplay

Visit Russia and China
Visit Portland, Seattle and Vancouver
Get another tattoo
Up my fashion game–stop buying black clothes!
Post at least once a week

Asian Girl Resolutions

It’s one of my favorite times of year: New Year’s resolutions! Yes I do it every year without question. I get to indulge all my fears and accomplishments, while you dear reader can tune me out until we return to regularly scheduled programming. At which point I’ll have you back in my Chinese finger trap.

I’ve been looking forward to 2014 for months. January will just be a continuation of the holidays, since it includes my dad’s birthday, my birthday, my best friends’ birthdays and this year, even Chinese New Year. 2013 saw the beginning of a stable job, dozens of new books under my belt (A Tree Grows in Brooklyn became #1), this blog(!), improving my running, a stronger bond with my health, cutting out caffeine and strengthening my relationship with my dad. I became a lot less frazzled and stressed in 2013, finally able to understand the patience and mindfulness that so many of these new habits hinged on.

The fails were numerous as well–I failed to meet almost all of my “social” goals: making a community in my neighborhood, going to more parties alone, throwing more parties, being kinder to my guy friends, and dating someone seriously. I also didn’t improve my DJing at all, or visit the East Coast. Counting on 2014 to breathe new life into them.

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Abridged Version

1. YOLO.

Unabridged Version


  1. Continue gaining a better idea of my career goals, and whether that means joining a major ad agency or innovation company.
  2. Work hard and gain as many skills as I can from my job and coworkers. Set those goals and talk about them with my manager.
  3. Be aware and vigilant of important contacts that could be of huge help to my goals, and don’t be afraid to ask the for help.
  4. Devise some semblance of a budget.


  1. Up my morning runs to the occasional  5-6 miler.
  2. Eat less sugar. Possibly go without a day without some kind of pastry (Not that hopeful, or determined about this one.)
  3. Yoga and meditation at least once a week.


  1. Make as much time for my fabulous friends as possible. They always come first.
  2. Be open to love even though I almost gagged typing that. Also be open to lust and infatuation and love disguised as hate and hate disguised as love and all the feels.
  3.  Talk to more strangers.


  1. Practice DJing at least once a week.
  2. Read before bed every night instead of going online.
  3. Make apartment more presentable for company, and throw more parties. Or just go to them.
  4. Visit friends on the East Coast, and travel at least once out of the country.
  5. Attend a writing conference.